I am not ashamed to say that I have a prodigal son. Being in full time ministry, others may think we should have this perfect lifestyle and everything must be in order.
Not so. We are humans and far from perfect, and I am no exception.
As parents we have made many mistakes, and some really bad mistakes, all the while going to church and professing Christ as our Lord and Savior.
One of the most difficult things we found is being a first generation Christian.
We did not have parents that taught us their mistakes and failures. We did not grow up in a home where we prayed, read the bible or had devotions. We did not have parents that we could go to or ask for prayer when facing a difficult situation or receive godly advice.
My husband and I had to learn all of these things on our own, and we failed along the way.
Is this an excuse? No. But I use this example to tell our son that since we have made so many mistakes, he can learn from us so that he does not have to repeat them.
As a result, our only son is not serving the Lord and into the world.
So what do we do? We pray. Here I would like to share with you some of the things we do and pray for our prodigal.
- Ask for forgiveness. As parents, we asked our son for forgiveness for anything that may be left unresolved. We let him know that as we have been healed, we desire the same for him. A few years back as a couple, we went through a healing process, and learned that the things we do are learned behaviors. The problem with that is that they are not all healthy. We learned to discard what was bad, and made new, healthy behaviors. We shared our healing experience with our son and how we are enjoying life and our marriage better than ever before.
- Point your child in the right direction. it does not matter the age. Our son at this moment is working and living a lifestyle that can generate repercussions to his health. We share with him the benefits of healthy living and having a career. We share how God has a plan for him, a plan that includes Gods’ love and prosperity. He has yet to listen to us.
- Keep the communication lines open. Our son lives in a different province and we don’t see him as often as we would like. When we are going to prayer, we ask him if he has any prayer requests. This lets him know that we love him and care for him.
- Tell your child that you love him/her. Let them know that whatever happens, you are there for them to help and guide. We can count on Jesus, so we should let our prodigal know that they can count on us, and certainly on Him.
- Declare scripture over your prodigal. One of my favorite things to do is make prayers for my son. For example, May the love of God be poured into (prodigals s name) heart by the Holy Spirit. Romans 5:5. I thank you Lord that (prodigals name) will come back to his own border. Jeremiah 31:17. The Holy Spirit will lead him/her into all Truth, I speak forth the spirit of Wisdom over (prodigal´s name) and lead him/her to the deep things of God. There are many more scriptures and prayers that I declare over my son, but these are just a few to give you an idea.
- Ask the Lord to show you what is going on when you pray. When I pray, I ask the Lord to show me and I ask for a vision, and God never fails. You may not see anything when you ask the first time, but continue to ask and He will show you. What you see in vision, add that to your prayers. For example, I have seen my prodigal behind a pulpit. I pray and thank the Lord that my son is serving him, preaching the Lords’ good work from the pulpit, and someday he will share his testimony to help others.
- Ask the Lord to tell you about your prodigal. Include that in your prayers as well. Ask, “Lord, how do you see (insert name)?” The Lord answers: “Your prayers have reached the heavens, and I am doing a work behind the scenes. Continue to pray, even though you may not see any fruit or change. I am working.” Praise him for that and receive it by faith.
- Thank the Lord that your prodigal has in an interest in the opposite sex. In today’s world where everything goes and trans is in, we want our prodigals to be true to the word. I pray for my sons spouse, and I thank the Lord for her and bless her even now.
- Have faith in God. Mar 11:23-24 says: For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. Believe that every time you pray for your prodigal, you will have him/her back. He/she will serve the Lord, they will be repentant, the relationship will be restored with you and most importantly with God. That mountain called the world, pain, resentment, hurt, ( insert in your own words here,) will have to move and get out of the way in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ of Nazareth who came in the flesh.
- Finally, It ain’t over until the fat angel sings. Be persistent, do not give up. You now have vision, you now have a promise, and you have the declared word over you prodigal. It’s the word of God that will not return void, but it shall accomplish what I please, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it. Isaiah 55:11.
Your prodigal will prosper; your prayers are not bouncing off the ceiling. Your prayers are reaching the heavens and being answered.
I decided to not be embarrassed about my prodigal, why? Because when he comes back to us and to the Lord in full force and with passion, zeal and might, I can give God all the glory, and shout it from the rooftops.
That will be an awesome testimony indeed.